Managing Christmas Overwhelm: 9 Tips for a Calmer Holiday Season

Christmas is a time of joy and togetherness for many, but it can also be overwhelming. For people living with disabilities, chronic health conditions, or mental health challenges, and for carers, family members, and anyone navigating unique challenges, the festive season can bring extra stress.

Whether it’s accessibility barriers, sensory overload, loneliness, or the pressure of holiday traditions, many people feel the weight of the holiday season. This guide offers practical tips to help you create a calmer, more enjoyable holiday season.

1. Plan Ahead to Reduce Stress

Planning ahead can make Christmas much easier. Think about what situations might be challenging and prepare solutions.

• For people with mobility challenges: Ask your host if their space is accessible. Can they move furniture to create more room or add a portable ramp?
• For people with sensory sensitivities (e.g., autism, ADHD): Talk about what the day might look like—noises, smells, or crowds. Bring comforting items like noise-cancelling headphones or sensory-friendly toys.
• For people managing chronic illness: Plan activities around energy levels. Let others know you may need to rest or leave early.
• For those navigating food allergies or dietary restrictions: Let your host know ahead of time about any food needs, and bring along a dish you know is safe for you to enjoy.

2. Stick to Routines Where Possible

The Christmas season often brings changes to regular routines, which can be unsettling for some.

• Keep bedtime, meals, and other routines as consistent as you can.
• Prepare for changes by talking about them in advance. For example, explain that Christmas dinner might happen at a different time or place.
• Create visual schedules to help plan and organise the day for those who find changes in routine challenging.

3. Create a Safe, Quiet Space

Christmas gatherings can be busy and loud, which might feel overwhelming for some people.

• Set up a quiet area at home or at family gatherings where anyone can go for a break.
• Bring calming activities, like colouring books, music, or relaxation apps.
• Let guests know it’s okay to take a step back if they need to recharge.
  

4. Simplify Gift-Giving

Gift-giving can feel like a big task, but it doesn’t have to be complicated or stressful.

• Consider alternatives like Secret Santa, where each person buys just one gift.
• Gifts don’t have to be expensive—homemade treats or personalised vouchers (like a promise for a shared outing) are thoughtful options.
• For people who find unwrapping gifts difficult, use gift bags, reusable wrapping, or ribbons with easy-pull tabs.
  

5. Take Time for Rest

The end of the year is busy, and it’s easy to feel burned out. Rest is essential, especially for carers and people managing health conditions.

• Schedule downtime between events to recharge.
• Share responsibilities—ask family or friends for help with cooking, cleaning, or shopping.
• Take small moments to care for yourself, like enjoying a cup of tea, practicing mindfulness, or reading.
  

6. Navigate Social Challenges and Loneliness

Christmas can feel isolating for those who struggle with social connection, whether due to disability, mental health, or being far from loved ones.

• Reach out to community events or local support groups—many hold inclusive Christmas activities.
• If gatherings feel overwhelming, try smaller get-togethers or virtual meetups.
• Online communities can be a great way to connect with others who understand your experiences.
  

7. Focus on What Matters Most

The holiday season often comes with pressure to create a perfect Christmas. Let go of the idea of perfection and focus on what truly matters to you and your loved ones.

• Choose a few traditions that bring joy and skip the rest.
• Spend time on simple, meaningful activities, like baking, crafting, or watching a movie together.
• Remember, Christmas is about connection and kindness, not how perfect your decorations or meals look.
  

8. Be Open to Asking for Help

Support is available if you need it. Whether it’s physical, emotional, or practical help, reaching out can make a difference.

Carers can connect with respite services or ask family and friends for support. Across Australia, organisations like Carer Gateway provide access to services, information, and resources for unpaid carers, including respite, carer groups, and training. You can contact Carer Gateway at 1800 422 737 or visit their website at www.carergateway.gov.au.

State-based organisations also offer tailored support:

• Carers SA: www.carerssa.com.au
• Carers NSW: www.carersnsw.org.au
• Carers Victoria: www.carersvictoria.org.au
• Carers Queensland: www.carersqld.com.au
• Carers WA: www.carerswa.asn.au
• Carers Tasmania: www.carerstas.org
• Carers NT: www.carersnt.asn.au
• Carers ACT: www.carersact.org.au

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, talk to a trusted person or a professional. Services like Lifeline (13 11 14) or Beyond Blue (1300 22 4636) are available for confidential help.

Community organisations often run events, meals, or outreach programs during the holidays for those who may feel isolated.

9. Celebrate in a Way That Works for You

There’s no right or wrong way to celebrate Christmas.

• For families with neurodiverse members, consider quieter celebrations at home or spread events out over several days.
• If traditional gatherings aren’t for you, create your own traditions, like a picnic in the park or a Christmas breakfast instead of dinner.
• Celebrate at your own pace, and don’t compare your Christmas to others’.
  

Final Thoughts

Christmas can bring challenges, but it’s also a chance to connect and celebrate in ways that feel meaningful to you. By planning ahead, being kind to yourself, and focusing on what matters most, you can create a calmer, more enjoyable holiday season.

Remember, the holidays are about love, connection, and care—for others and for yourself.

From all of us at The Chooze Shop, we wish you a safe, happy, and stress-free Christmas.